Use THIS Line When Approaching Your Crush (Works 100% of The Time)

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Have you ever wanted to start a conversation with someone but you just didn’t know what to say at the beginning so that it wouldn’t feel forced or awkward or weird?

Here’s the real truth behind the “perfect” opening line.

It’s not really perfect unless you have something good to follow up with. Just spouting off a good opener is going to start the conversation but it’s not going to help you carry it, so we’re going to dive a little bit deeper into what you can do to carry the conversation after I share the line with you. So, here’s the line.

“Hey let me get your quick opinion on something before I head to class.”

The reason why this is the perfect opening line is that if you break it up into several parts, it lets that person know what it is that you want from the conversation, why you’re approaching them, and how long it’s actually gonna be.

Looking at the first part:

Shows that person that you want a quick simple answer. You’re not approaching them for a long dragged-out conversation and you’re not going to take up much of their time. You’re asking for something quick. Also, you’re asking for their opinion. You want to know their thoughts on something, you want to get their perspective. It’s going to help you learn more about them and it’s going to give them the chance to share their honest feelings.

Now the second part of that sentence:

This re-emphasizes how long you actually intend to talk to them. It lets them see that you are in the process of going somewhere right now and you just kind of turned to them to just start a quick conversation just to get their perspective on something before you go on your route. The reason why I think this is the perfect opening line is that you’re not expecting too much of them. It’s not a super detailed question that they have to actually sit and think about. They could just share whatever it is off the top of their head and you’ll go on your way.

Now if you’re not in a school setting, here are two variations of the line that you can also use.

It still conveys the same length of time that you’d want to talk to them and it opens it up for them to share their opinion. Or try this third version:

What you’re letting that person know is that you have a plan. You’re in the process of doing something and you’re just kind of at the pit stop getting their perspective on something before you go.

So now that you know what the opening line is what you say after is going to build context into that conversation. Here’s where I would recommend something like my 20 ice breaker conversation starters guide.

This is a guide I put together that breaks down different questions you can ask someone to learn more about their personality, their hobbies, their interests and it gives you follow-up questions so you can keep that conversation going.

But if you needed something off the top of my head right now because you’re gonna go approach them and talk to them:

  • Ask them what the last good movie they watched on Netflix was.
  • Ask them where they like to hang out with their friends.
  • Ask them something school-related or job-related or related to the area that the two of you share.

You might be thinking… isn’t it just weird to ask a random person something like that?

Well not really. Actually, people enjoy sharing their opinion and perspective on things. In fact, if you ask a person for a small favor, that’s showing them that you’re willing to communicate with them, you’re willing to work with them, and it’s going to open up the doorway for them to want to do it back with you.

If you ask them a question about their interests and hobbies, they may ask you that same question back and that’s the human connection forming. That’s exactly what you want to build with a stranger who you don’t really know at all.

But here’s the kicker so listen up.

Because you told them that you were heading somewhere and you wanted their quick opinion on something, they may start to feel guilty holding you down and talking more and more so their answers may be brief, and your answers kind of should be brief as well because if you’re just talking and talking they’re gonna think “Didn’t this person have to go somewhere?”.

If the conversation does get awkward, you have your out. You had somewhere to go so you can always end it and just move on. But, if the conversation is actually going well, make sure to say something like this to them.

The goal then is to start off that conversation just getting their perspective on something but then realizing that this person is awesome and so much fun to talk to.

If you can convey that as you communicate with them they’re going to feel seen, they’re going to feel heard, and they’re definitely going to want to talk to you again.

On that note, I’ll catch you guys next time.
As always, love and peace.

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://www.thejoshspeaks.com

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