This Behavior is DESTROYING Modern Dating (But We Can Fix It!)

The Josh Speaks
5 min readJul 20, 2024

Every aspect of modern dating today feels damn near impossible because people are obsessed with instant gratification. We want an infinite number of choices delivered to us faster than humanly possible which is the problem. Everything from dating apps to hookup culture to texting creates this dynamic where we’re doing away with depth in relationships.

Dating apps

If you’re a guy who’s ever tried to use a dating app before, you know exactly what the problem is. They are oversaturated with other dudes. You’re competing against so many men that it just feels damn near impossible to match with a woman.

So to feel like you’re gaining some type of value from them, you might find yourself swiping right on every single girl that you see. It doesn’t even matter if you’re attracted to them or not. You’re just hoping to gain some level of success.

The problem is that guys aren’t being selective enough because it doesn’t work in their favor to do that. And because of this massive dating pool of guys…

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The Josh Speaks

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://thejoshspeaks.com