The TRUTH about Complimenting Your Crush in Person or Over Text

Have you ever tried to compliment someone only to have it backfire on you?

Maybe you said something simple to them like “you’re awesome”, “you’re pretty”, “you’re beautiful” and they didn’t take it that way. Instead, they got annoyed or upset with you even saying it.

There are three simple truths that you need to know about giving compliments. When to do it and when not to do it so that you don’t overstep your boundaries and ruin things with the person you’re trying to talk to.

Truth #1: Compliments should be specific to an action.

A lot of times people give basic compliments like “you look really beautiful” or “you’re really awesome”, “you’re really smart” and while those are pretty neutral, pretty ok, I don’t think they really help you better connect with that person.

In fact, it’s the type of thing that anyone can say to that person so you’re not really standing out. But if you instead focus that compliment on an action that they’ve taken. Something they’ve chosen to do, it actually makes that compliment way more personal.

Here are two examples:

“Hey, you look super pretty today. Just like, gorgeous”.