The BEST Way to Video Chat with Your Crush (Without Being Awkward)

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Are you trying to figure out the best way to video chat with your crush?

When it comes to video chatting your crush it’s not as hard as you may think it is. Sure, you may be comfortable with texting them and that might be the primary form of how you talk to them but if you were to start video chatting with them, I can guarantee you’d have a much better chance of eventually going out on a date with them.

So how do you do it? How do you go from back and forth texting to actually video chatting? Well, I think you should use a technique like this:

Tell them through text that you want to tell them a really interesting story. Something crazy happened to you but it’s easier and quicker and better for you to tell it over video chat. So, ask him if they have a few minutes just so you can tell them that story.

Essentially what you’re doing is appealing to their intrigue and curiosity. If you were to just flat out say “Hey do you want to jump on a video chat?” a million thoughts are going to run through their mind.

But, if you lead in with an interesting story already to tell them that’s going to make them want to video chat with you. And while the technique will get you in the door with them it really is up to you now to have a fun story to tell so think about something that’s happened to you recently.

  • Did something crazy happen?
  • Did something funny happen?
  • Did something happen in the past that you think is worth sharing?

Use that as your queue up point to kind of jump into the conversation with them and to have something actually fun to share.

Before you even start your video chat though one thing you don’t want to do is to have your camera facing the ceiling.

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I’ve seen so many people have conversations with someone where they’re aiming the camera at something else so turn your camera towards your face. Look directly in it as you’re talking to your crush. If your camera is facing anything other than you that’s going to convey a major lack of confidence. They’re going to feel like you just don’t have what it takes to face them head-on. Imagine if you were sitting with them there in person and you were just facing a different direction as you talked to them.

With that out of the way, you got all the basics covered. You have something to talk to your crush about and you’re looking confidently into the camera so that they know that you want to speak directly to them. But, what do you do when the conversation starts to run dry and things get awkward and you run into that moment where it’s silent you don’t know what to talk about?

Here’s where I think it’s important to keep the conversation short if it needs to be short. Far too often people feel like when they jump into a video chat with their crush it needs to go on for a long extended amount of time but if you feel like things are starting to dwindle down it’s totally fine to kind of bring it to a close. I’m a firm believer that it's way better to plan a short conversation and have it run longer than to plan a long conversation and have it awkwardly run short. If you tell your crush that crazy story over video chat and then they share a crazy story from their lives that are similar and that leads to the two of you asking each other questions and just naturally having that conversation progress that’s probably an ideal scenario.

A lot of times people will jump in tell their story really really quickly, and then have nothing to talk about. They won’t ask questions. They won’t share other stories. They’ll just kind of awkwardly sitting there and transition to things like “Uh so what’s going on in your life?” or “What else is new?”.

Honestly, though, I think the part that people find the most awkward about having a video chat with their crush is the very beginning. Look you may have a good story plan, you may have good follow-up questions, you might even look directly at your phone as you talk to them but it’s that startup that just feels weird and unnatural. You might start off with something awkward like “Hey!”, “How’s it going?”, “Hello” and then you kind of start to transition into the story.

Here’s what you need to do instead.

Jump right into telling your story.

That awkwardness arises in the beginning because you wait too long to get into the details of what you want to speak to them about. Trust me on this, the sooner you could just start talking and opening up, the easier it’s going to be for them to feel that energy back from you. They’re not going to feel awkward and weird because they’re going to feel like well this person is comfortable talking to me so I’m comfortable listening and sharing and opening up to them too.

Video chatting with your crush does not need to be awkward. And when it comes to the end of the conversation when you feel like you want to jump off, simply tell them “Hey thanks for jumping on. Let’s talk again soon! This was a lot of fun.” Make sure to include that so they feel like this is something you enjoy doing and they can kind of reflect on it too and feel like “Yeah, this is a person I want to talk to more and I’m definitely going to do that.”

If you’re still wondering what kind of follow-up questions you can ask your crush, definitely check out my 20 Ice Breaker Conversation Starters Guide to get questions, follow ups and different directions take your video chat conversation to the next level.

On that notes, I’ll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://www.thejoshspeaks.com

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