Debunking the Myth: Does a High Body Count Really Ruin Pair Bonding?

As you start to build up the number of sexual partners you have, is it true that you actually lose the ability to pair bond and to form deep relationships with people later on because you’re wasting it away with casual sex?

I hear this argument quite often on red pill channels and in a lot of the comments I receive on the video I made about body count, so let’s dive into this idea of what pair bonding is because the majority of people have it completely wrong.

The argument is often laid out like this: “Promiscuity by default is bad because the more a woman engages in casual sex, the harder it’s going to be for her to form a deeper relationship with someone later on or to pair bond.”

Now, something people tend to overlook is the fact that humans are not naturally lifelong monogamous; we’re actually serial monogamous, meaning we take on multiple different partners throughout our lifetime and usually don’t just pick one and stick with them forever.

In fact, most relationships generally only last around two years, depending on your age, socioeconomic status, and cultural background. And when it comes to relationships before you get married, most people have been in at least five, with around four to eight sexual partners being the average for men and women.

Now you personally might not consider someone with eight past sexual partners to be promiscuous. Maybe you’re thinking of someone with 20 or 50 or a body count of 100 or more. But the real question we need to ask here is, does that body count have any impact on their ability to form a relationship?

I’ve even heard people make the argument that somehow women release more oxytocin when they have sex and because of that, as they have more casual sex, it becomes depleted; they lose from their bucket and are unable to replenish it later on with newer partners. And that just sounds like some made-up “trust me bro” type of science out there.