Debunking the Myth: Does a High Body Count Really Ruin Pair Bonding?

The Josh Speaks
6 min readAug 12, 2023

As you start to build up the number of sexual partners you have, is it true that you actually lose the ability to pair bond and to form deep relationships with people later on because you’re wasting it away with casual sex?

I hear this argument quite often on red pill channels and in a lot of the comments I receive on the video I made about body count, so let’s dive into this idea of what pair bonding is because the majority of people have it completely wrong.

The argument is often laid out like this: “Promiscuity by default is bad because the more a woman engages in casual sex, the harder it’s going to be for her to form a deeper relationship with someone later on or to pair bond.”

Now, something people tend to overlook is the fact that humans are not naturally lifelong monogamous; we’re actually serial monogamous, meaning we take on multiple different partners throughout our lifetime and usually don’t just pick one and stick with them forever.

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The Josh Speaks

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://thejoshspeaks.com