If you want to know how to slide into your crush’s DM’s effectively you don’t actually start by sending them a direct message.
There’s no magic phrase that you could send over to your crush that’s immediately going to get them to open it up and want to start dating you. Instead, you gotta put in a little bit of work and it starts like this.
Tip #1: Be someone that likes their pics but not as soon as they post them.
Think about it like this, every time your crush decides to post a new picture they’re gonna get swarmed with lots of people all liking it at the same time. And when you just join in that crowd you don’t really stand out.
What you could try doing is liking that picture maybe 10 minutes or so after they post it. That way your notification is the only one that pops up and it might have a better chance of catching their attention.
Now when it comes to Stories though, this is a totally different play. If you crush posts Stories on Instagram, what most people tend to do is just kind of click along watching every single story and not really interacting with it. This is where you’re going to stand out by actually responding back with an emoji response to their story. That’s actually going to show up in their direct messages and it’s going to create the opportunity where you can now start that conversation.
A simple like or reaction might not be enough to spark a conversation though, so you may need to try this next step too.
Tip #2: Start commenting with questions on things that they post.
Most people tend to leave very basic comments like “cool pic”, “nice”, “awesome” but, what you’re going to do instead is ask a more detailed question about something in that photo.
- Are they posting with friends?
- Did they go somewhere cool?
- Are they just excited about something that they bought?
Ask a question that will evoke an answer from them. Maybe you want to ask an opinion-based question so they can go a little deeper into who they are.
The question that you ask is going to be that jump-off point for you to now slide into their DMs. Once they respond back in the comments of their picture you can now send them a direct message and follow up to keep that conversation going. It’s gonna then feel a lot more natural for you to have a private conversation rather than you messaging them out of nowhere asking them a random question.
Not every single person’s crush is super active on Instagram. Maybe they rarely post pictures and don’t even post Stories at all, so what do you do?
Tip #3: Be the one that’s actively posting, asking questions, and giving opportunities for your crush to interact with YOUR content.
Every time you post a new picture or meme over on Instagram, try tagging your crush and a few other friends and also throw in a question into the caption of that post. That might inspire your crush to actually respond or to even just react with an emoji. And once they do, that now gives you the opportunity to springboard into their DMs and make it happen, captain.
Also, make sure to use all the interactive features that Instagram gives you in Stories. Set up polls, ask questions, basically what you want to do is create an open environment where your crush can actually just give you a little bit of feedback. For them to just take that first step and to start that conversation if they’re not someone that’s actively giving you a chance to do it too.
Sliding into someone’s DMs is not about finding the perfect thing to say that’s gonna win them over. It’s all about creating a meaningful connection with your crush. Having them feel like you’re someone that’s interested in them, they’re someone that’s interested in you, and when you’re having this private conversation it doesn’t end up being awkward or weird or feel out of place.
And it all comes back to having a real genuine interest in that person. Wanting to learn about their hobbies and their interests and just who they are so that you can take your Instagram friendship to the next level.
But how do you KEEP that Instagram conversation going? I would recommend checking out my 20 Ice Breaker Conversation Starters Guide. I break down 20 different conversation topics you can bring up along with ways to go deeper into those conversations naturally.
On that note, I’ll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.