Do you ever find it difficult to socialize at school? To make new friends and to feel comfortable just being yourself around others? Fitting in is not the easiest thing to do but there are three practical solutions you could start using right now to feel more comfortable and confident in any interaction you have and to actually get the people at your school to like you back.

When I was in middle school, high school, and even in college, I had core groups of friends that I could feel comfortable talking to interacting with just being myself. …

Do you have a crush on someone and you’re trying to figure out whether or not they like you back but you can’t just outright ask them… can you?

I want to call out some potential bad behavior and mistakes that you might be making.

If you’re spending your time chasing around looking for signals, it’s not going to help you out.

People spend way too much time trying to read and decode different signals rather than creating signals for their crush to actually follow.

For example, have you ever wondered… Why don’t they start the conversation first? Do they…

Have you ever thought to yourself, man if I ever run into my old crush I think I’m way more confident and ready to handle that interaction?

Well, that’s exactly what happened to me and I just completely fell apart.

When I first started high school I was a pretty nervous kid. I had to ride the public bus every morning to get to school and at that bus stop was this girl that also went to the school that I thought was just totally gorgeous.

Every single day that I went to school I would see her waiting there…

Have you ever found yourself sitting in class trying to pay attention to the lesson but you just kept getting distracted by your teacher?

There’s something about them that’s so mesmerizing… so captivating… so attractive.

First off, I just want to say that there’s nothing wrong with having a crush on your teacher. Think about it, you see them almost every single day. You’re staring directly at them as they’re teaching you for 45 minutes to an hour. It makes sense that you might start to develop feelings for them.

It’s really no different from how we develop feelings for…

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you lacked a real display of confidence? Like somehow the person was easily able to pick up on the fact that you were shy, or nervous, or awkward when talking to them?

If you’ve been there before, chances are you might be using one of these three confidence killers in your conversations and every time you do, that person just sees right through you and knows that you’re not confident.

Be aware of when you’re using your passive voice

Using a passive voice when you’re talking to someone you like is safe. You don’t want to sound too aggressive…

If you like someone and you want to be with them is it possible for the two of you to be just friends? The short answer is yes, but the long answer is it’s actually a bit more complicated.

What is the friend zone?

Is it real? Is it made up? Is it something people use as a cover whenever the person they like doesn’t like them back?

When you first meet someone that you’re interested in, you start to figure out where along the connection spectrum you want to place them.

Let’s say you’re talking to a girl at school at work or just somewhere outside and you know deep down that you want to keep that conversation going. Which means you’re gonna have to ask for her phone number.

The question really is…

Will she give it to you if you flat out just ask her for it?

The fear you’re feeling is simply built around your lack of confidence and believing that you’re gonna get a yes answer from her and then you actually have anything of substance to share.

Putting that self-doubt aside I want you to realize…

Have you ever had a crush on someone that you were planning on asking out eventually but you started to notice something weird going on? Maybe it was that your crush was liking your friend’s photos a lot or you started to notice a flirty exchange between the two of them and that got you wondering, does my crush like my friend and if they do what do I do about it?

This might seem like one of those worst-case scenarios but trust me there is something that you can do to handle it so that it won’t sting so…

Do you have a crush on someone right now but you’re sort of conflicted as to whether or not it makes sense for you to pursue them? Maybe you don’t have enough free time or you don’t think you’ll be able to dedicate enough to the relationship? Or what if you put yourself out there and they rejected you?

These are real questions that people face when it comes to figuring out whether or not the crush that you have is someone you want to date.

When it comes to finding a partner and figuring out if the two of…

Is there someone you have a crush on right now that you want to ask out but you feel like it’s not the right time to do it? Maybe they’re dating someone else or maybe they friend-zoned you?

In the meantime, you should be dating other people.

I know what you’re thinking… why would I date other people if I like this person?

Well, I’m gonna need to burst your bubble. The reason why you’re so obsessed with only dating that crush is simply that you don’t know them that well. You’ve created this perception in your mind that they…

The Josh Speaks

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults.

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