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6 Reasons Why You Should NEVER Rush Into a Relationship
Have you ever been in a situation where someone shows you a little bit of attention and your brain immediately jumps to “wow, this is a person I want to go out with”.
Before you rush into a relationship with them, there are 6 things you need to know to make sure you’re not getting into a relationship with a person you’ll regret.
I’m gonna be real with you here, the real reason why you want to jump into a relationship so bad is that you’re desperate. Maybe you haven’t dated someone for your entire life or maybe you’re just going through a dry spell where there’s no one that you’re interested in or no one that you talked to or asked out or even no one that’s liked you back.
1. When you jump into a relationship out of desperation you either quickly get bored of that person or that person quickly gets bored of them.
If you’re just using that person to fill a gap in your own life then they’re not being placed there because you really want them there or they’re qualified to be there, they’re just doing their job and filling that role. Picking someone out of desperation because you’re lonely or just getting into a relationship with someone because all your other friends are in relationships and you don’t want to be the odd person out, you’re gonna get bored of that person because there are no qualifiers. There’s no reason for them being there other than to fit that role so you don’t feel alone.
2. Things will quickly get awkward because you don’t really know anything about that person.
I’ve spoken to so many people who decided to get a girlfriend or boyfriend only to find out that there was nothing for the two of you to talk about. The conversations were just lots of awkward pauses. In a way, you’re putting the cart before the horse if you get into a relationship before you get to know the person.
The whole point of jumping into a relationship is because you’ve taken the time to really get to know that person better. Otherwise, it’s just going to be a lot of awkward conversations like “hey, how’s it going boyfriend?” “How are you…
