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Have you ever felt pressured to participate in something that you didn’t really want to do but everyone around you was kind of pushing you into it?

Growing up there are going to be a lot of challenges and a lot of peer pressure that comes your way. Some of it you’re going to be okay with participating in but then some of it you’re not.

So where do you draw those lines for yourself without feeling like you’re missing out on what everyone’s doing or feeling like the lame person who isn’t really cool enough to hang with everyone?

Just a little fun fact about me, I’ve never drank or smoked before in my life.


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Do you ever feel like every time you try to succeed you’re constantly met with failure? That after trying and trying, it just makes more sense to give up?

If you’re someone that’s constantly facing negative situations that you feel are out of your hands… maybe you’re getting rejected a lot, maybe you’re failing at school, maybe you don’t know what you want to do with your life. It’s easy to start to feel like it just makes more sense to give up.

This is what’s called “learned helplessness”. The term was coined in 1967 by two American psychologists.

If you’re someone that’s experiencing learned helplessness even when you have the opportunity to change your outcome or your situation you still feel like there’s no opportunity there, you might feel like you’ve been burned so much that it just doesn’t make sense to even try. …


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It’s a brand new year and when it comes to asking out your crush there’s a bunch of new things you’re definitely going to want to prepare for in 2021.

If you have noticed that the pandemic through dating for a bit of a loop.

You might have had to deal with remote learning or remote working so the chances of seeing your crush in person just dropped drastically or your crush maybe wasn’t too enthusiastic about going out on a date, spending time outside around other people, so that just made it a whole lot harder.

Well, this here is kind of carrying over some of those same patterns but there’s a lot of new things that I really want you to prioritize to make sure you can be as successful as possible. …


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If you want to know how to slide into your crush’s DM’s effectively you don’t actually start by sending them a direct message.

There’s no magic phrase that you could send over to your crush that’s immediately going to get them to open it up and want to start dating you. Instead, you gotta put in a little bit of work and it starts like this.

Tip #1: Be someone that likes their pics but not as soon as they post them.

Think about it like this, every time your crush decides to post a new picture they’re gonna get swarmed with lots of people all liking it at the same time. …


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Have you ever wanted to start a conversation with someone but you just didn’t know what to say at the beginning so that it wouldn’t feel forced or awkward or weird?

Here’s the real truth behind the “perfect” opening line.

It’s not really perfect unless you have something good to follow up with. Just spouting off a good opener is going to start the conversation but it’s not going to help you carry it, so we’re going to dive a little bit deeper into what you can do to carry the conversation after I share the line with you. …


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If you like someone that is currently in a relationship that you know is not good for them you might be thinking, what can I do to break the two of them up so that that person can date me?

I’m gonna tell you exactly what you need to do.

If your crush is in a happy and healthy relationship don’t get involved. If they’re with a partner that looks after them, cares about them, and wants them to succeed don’t be that person that gets jealous and tries to stand in the way just because you want to go out with them. …


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Are you trying to figure out the best way to video chat with your crush?

When it comes to video chatting your crush it’s not as hard as you may think it is. Sure, you may be comfortable with texting them and that might be the primary form of how you talk to them but if you were to start video chatting with them, I can guarantee you’d have a much better chance of eventually going out on a date with them.

So how do you do it? How do you go from back and forth texting to actually video chatting? …


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If you’re constantly finding yourself in the friend zone, chances are you’re making one of these five very crucial mistakes.

Getting out of the friend-zone is not an impossible task but the reason why a lot of guys stay in the friend-zone is that they keep making the same mistakes over and over with every girl they’re trying to pursue.

Mistake #1: Apologizing whenever you want to start a conversation with your crush.

You might go into it like this.

Guy: “Hey uh, I’m sorry to bother you but… I want to ask you a question but if it’s stupid just let me know… Hey, what’s up I’m sorry for wasting your time and I know this is probably a dumb thing to ask but are you free to hang out sometime?”. …


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Do you ever find yourself getting jealous because your crush is talking to other people or hanging out with and not really investing time into getting closer to you?

Let’s explore how to deal with those feelings of anger, and jealousy, and annoyance, and how to start getting closer to your crush so you don’t have to feel them anymore.

I think the problem that you might be running into is that you might be idealizing your crush. You feel like they’re not interested in anyone else. …


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Let’s say you‘re texting your crush, things are going well but then suddenly the conversation starts to die down. They stop responding and you don’t know how to revive it. What do you do?

One of the most common things that happen when your crush stops responding is you start to overthink.

  • What if they’re not responding because they don’t like me?
  • What if they think the conversation’s boring and they think I’m boring?
  • What if they’re texting someone else that they like even more than me right now?

You might even find yourself in a place where you want to message them and ask them “Hey why aren’t you responding? What’s going on?” …

About

The Josh Speaks

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://www.thejoshspeaks.com

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