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Let’s say you’re talking to a girl at school at work or just somewhere outside and you know deep down that you want to keep that conversation going. Which means you’re gonna have to ask for her phone number.

The question really is…

Will she give it to you if you flat out just ask her for it?

The fear you’re feeling is simply built around your lack of confidence and believing that you’re gonna get a yes answer from her and then you actually have anything of substance to share.

Putting that self-doubt aside I want you to realize…

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Have you ever had a crush on someone that you were planning on asking out eventually but you started to notice something weird going on? Maybe it was that your crush was liking your friend’s photos a lot or you started to notice a flirty exchange between the two of them and that got you wondering, does my crush like my friend and if they do what do I do about it?

This might seem like one of those worst-case scenarios but trust me there is something that you can do to handle it so that it won’t sting so…

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Do you have a crush on someone right now but you’re sort of conflicted as to whether or not it makes sense for you to pursue them? Maybe you don’t have enough free time or you don’t think you’ll be able to dedicate enough to the relationship? Or what if you put yourself out there and they rejected you?

These are real questions that people face when it comes to figuring out whether or not the crush that you have is someone you want to date.

When it comes to finding a partner and figuring out if the two of…

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Is there someone you have a crush on right now that you want to ask out but you feel like it’s not the right time to do it? Maybe they’re dating someone else or maybe they friend-zoned you?

In the meantime, you should be dating other people.

I know what you’re thinking… why would I date other people if I like this person?

Well, I’m gonna need to burst your bubble. The reason why you’re so obsessed with only dating that crush is simply that you don’t know them that well. You’ve created this perception in your mind that they…

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If you haven’t texted your crush in a long time you might be wondering…

“What do I say to them to restart that conversation without it being awkward?”.

This is an incredibly common problem. You’re texting your crush and maybe the conversation just falls to the wayside or you just run out of things to talk about or even worse they block you and you just don’t know how to keep in communication with them.

And maybe some time has passed and you want to start talking to them again or they unblocked you and you want to bring things…

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Have you ever felt pressured to participate in something that you didn’t really want to do but everyone around you was kind of pushing you into it?

Growing up there are going to be a lot of challenges and a lot of peer pressure that comes your way. Some of it you’re going to be okay with participating in but then some of it you’re not.

So where do you draw those lines for yourself without feeling like you’re missing out on what everyone’s doing or feeling like the lame person who isn’t really cool enough to hang with everyone?

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Do you ever feel like every time you try to succeed you’re constantly met with failure? That after trying and trying, it just makes more sense to give up?

If you’re someone that’s constantly facing negative situations that you feel are out of your hands… maybe you’re getting rejected a lot, maybe you’re failing at school, maybe you don’t know what you want to do with your life. It’s easy to start to feel like it just makes more sense to give up.

This is what’s called “learned helplessness”. The term was coined in 1967 by two American psychologists.

If…

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It’s a brand new year and when it comes to asking out your crush there’s a bunch of new things you’re definitely going to want to prepare for in 2021.

If you have noticed that the pandemic through dating for a bit of a loop.

You might have had to deal with remote learning or remote working so the chances of seeing your crush in person just dropped drastically or your crush maybe wasn’t too enthusiastic about going out on a date, spending time outside around other people, so that just made it a whole lot harder.

Well, this here…

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If you want to know how to slide into your crush’s DM’s effectively you don’t actually start by sending them a direct message.

There’s no magic phrase that you could send over to your crush that’s immediately going to get them to open it up and want to start dating you. Instead, you gotta put in a little bit of work and it starts like this.

Tip #1: Be someone that likes their pics but not as soon as they post them.

Think about it like this, every time your crush decides to post a new picture they’re gonna get swarmed with lots of people all liking it at the same time. …

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Have you ever wanted to start a conversation with someone but you just didn’t know what to say at the beginning so that it wouldn’t feel forced or awkward or weird?

Here’s the real truth behind the “perfect” opening line.

It’s not really perfect unless you have something good to follow up with. Just spouting off a good opener is going to start the conversation but it’s not going to help you carry it, so we’re going to dive a little bit deeper into what you can do to carry the conversation after I share the line with you. …

The Josh Speaks

Josh is an inspirational speaker, YouTuber, and author of the self-help book “Embracing The Awkward” for teens and young adults. https://www.thejoshspeaks.com

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